It may do more harm than good to expect grief to follow specific stages. Here's why.
Wouldn't it be great if grieving were such a simple process that it could be described in stages? It would be so handy to know what to expect as time passes. It would be reassuring to track our progress and a relief to know that, even though we're super depressed about it right now, at least once we got to that stage, we wouldn't have to confront feelings of disbelief, anger, or regret ever again.
Alas, grieving is a far more complicated and bewildering process. And decades of research on grief and mourning have debunked this five-stage model, which does more harm than good. What's the harm? Many of us expect to go through neat stages of grief. We tend to turn to it as if it were a recipe or a prescription. We hope to measure our progress through it.
To eradicate it, let's start by asking where"the five stages of grief" came from. And how did it become"conventionalIt all started in the 1960s, when psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., researched how the dying process affects people. Her classic 1969 bookbrought this long-neglected topic out into the light.
Dr. Kubler-Ross envisioned that dying patients could benefit enormously from support rather than neglect. So she started talking to them about what it was like and what kind of support they wanted. Most notably, she observed that dying people were grieving due to the fact that their lives were coming to an end. And based on her interviews, she created"the five stages of grief" to describe how the dying come to terms with their own approaching death:Anger — This is pissing me off.
Bargaining — Dear powers that be, if you spare my life or let me attempt a new treatment, I will devote myself to x, y, z.Acceptance — It is what it is. This is my fate, my destiny; I'm ready to go whenever the time comes.
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