Letter-writer doesn’t know how to handle nosy neighbors asking whether their late friend left them anything.
I don’t want to say no, because I don’t want others to think my friend was thoughtless and exploitative, because she was not. I don’t want to say yes, because I don’t want them to think differently of me. If all were transparent, millions were left to many social and community organizations, and I was provided a sum some might consider substantial, but it really won’t change my lifestyle.who were not interested in her when she was alive, have suddenly developed an interest.
Of course, you do not want to satisfy this unseemly curiosity. Miss Manners suggests that this is an occasion for a non-answer, such as, “It was a privilege to know her, and I miss her.” Should probing persist, you could add: “It’s a shame you didn’t know her better. She was a lovely person.”I know that, in the past, it has been a custom to refer to a wife as “Mrs. Husband’s First Name Last Name.
However, I can’t help but feel, in this day and age, that the fact that women have names might be something we can address. My husband gets the mail from our mailbox and was thoroughly confused because we received an invitation addressed to “Mrs. First Initial Last Name.” He thought he had been invited to a bridal shower, and I don’t blame him. A quick glance certainly makes it look as if he was the invitee.
Miss Manners hopes that you are not suggesting that we cease to respect and start to attack those who follow the old custom. Surely it would be easier to teach your husband that “Mrs.” always refers to a lady.
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