When you resist, avoid, or disregard your thoughts and feelings, you disconnect from and reject yourself. Here's a better way to handle them, writes DrMaidenberg
Keep to the original thought. Your mind may spiral to other thoughts and feelings based on that original thought. Keep returning and repeating the original thought. Avoid responding to the thought because, when you do, you give it credence, and you risk spiraling and having more thoughts that need responding to.Connect to what the thought is evoking. Consider whether the thought is connecting to or associating with a negative core belief , a worry , or an old narrative .
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